Many of us enter romantic relationships hoping that they will last forever. Therefore when a decision is made to move on, we feel that we have failed in the relationship. Yet the failure is in living up to our relationship expectations, rather the relationship itself. Here’s a way of looking at relationships that will instantly […]
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Many readers write to me asking how to let go of failed relationships. When a relationship ends, why do we find it so hard to let go? We think that we’re trying to let go of the other person. The reality is that we’re not clinging on to the other person, but to something else […]
Is your faith borrowed from some other person or system, or do you have original faith? Paul Maurice Martin challenges us to ask ourselves this question in his book Original Faith: What Your Life is Trying to Tell You. Paul is someone whose faith has been tested to the limit. He suffers from a debilitating […]
An intimate relationship, like marriage, is an exclusive attachment to another. Enlightenment is detaching from people and things in general, yet realising that we are all intertwined. Are enlightenment and intimacy compatible?
Most people have heard that meditation is key to a happy life. But the lack of time or know-how stops them from starting this practice. How can you find an easy meditation practice for yourself? “I crash into a table in the darkness, yet it is not the table that has hurt me but the […]
I learned a little bit about selflessness yesterday while walking my dog. I normally pick up after my dog, but that day I also picked up some other dog’s poo. It was horrible, all cold and covered with flies. Why did I do it? Because the day before, my dog had gobbled up some dried […]
Most people are better at criticising than encouraging. I spent years learning how to encourage instead of put down. At first, it was hard to find the right words, apart from a vague “well done”. Slowly, I learnt how to encourage in a smarter and more effective way. How to encourage the SMART way While […]
When I ask people what they want most in life, many tell me “I just want to be happy”. This struck me as odd because I would not have given this reply to the question myself. Then I realised why – I am already happy.
Many people feel frustrated because they are not using their personal strengths to make a living or contribute to the world. If I asked you “what are your personal strengths?” would you be able to answer with conviction? Are you already using those strengths in the work that occupies most of your waking hours? My […]
After my post on using feng shui to attract wealth, a reader asked me if we can use feng shui for improving relationships. The answer is yes. Feng shui and love are very compatible! Practical feng shui for love If someone walked into your home and bedroom, would it be obvious that the place was […]