Everybody likes to be remembered on their birthdays. It makes us feel important, and shows us who our real friends are. They are the ones who keep that most important date in mind. If you want stronger relationships, here are ways you can remember birthdays.
1. Write birthdays down immediately
The moment anyone mentions their birthday, immediately say “Oh wait, let me write that down.” Proceed to key the into your phone contacts or calendar. And don’t worry, that person will not minding waiting at all! They will feel gratified that they are important enough for you to keep track of their birthday.
2. Build it into your schedule
Digital calendars make it easy to integrate birthdays into our schedule. Link your contacts to your calendar so that it will automatically show up. Or set events of reminders manually to “repeat every year”.
3. Set reminders before the actual birthday
I usually set the reminder for a week in advance. This gives me time to shop for a present or mail a card to a friend who lives overseas. One week is also usually enough time to make an appointment with them for lunch or dinner.
4. Use third party programmes
Services like Birthday Alarm make it easy to track and send greeting cards on your friends’ birthdays. Getting an actual e-card also makes it more personal than the usual one-liner on your social media platforms.
5. Form social groups
Chances are that someone else in your groupchat is good at remembering birthdays. Then you can chime in with the rest with your well wishes.
6. Place standing orders
For important friends and family, consider using merchants to help you remember the important dates. For example, you could place an order with a florist to deliver your mum a bouquet every year. When your mum thanks you for the bouquet, you’ll remember it’s her birthday!
7. Let your friends remind you
Facebook has make this very easy by reminding you which of your friends is having a birthday. However, not everyone puts their personal details online. Very bluntly request that your friends remind you when their birthdays are approaching. Of course, you will score more brownie points if you remember without their help. So refer back to the above point.
Your favourite way to remember birthdays?
Mine is #1. Stopping to take note immediately helps me to remember, and makes them feel good. Remembering birthdays is one of the easiest ways to spread joy in the world: to everyone you know, every year, year after year. And it’s so easy to do!