Not all judgments are the same, although we should try to judge less. First, a short joke that shows the difference between offensive judging and defensive judging.
An elephant asked a camel, “Why are your breasts on your back?”
“Well,” said the camel, “I think that’s an inappropriate question from somebody whose dick is on his face.”
Offensive Judging: The Elephant
Sometimes we are like the elephant. The camel is minding his own business, and we just have to ask that provocative question or make that insensitive statement.
I was an elephant three days ago. I used language on someone else that made me blush. Although I did it in jest rather than criticism, it was completely uncalled for.
When was the last time you were an elephant and initiated judgment on another person who was just minding their own business?
Defensive Judging: The Camel
At other times we are like the camel. The elephant makes an offensive remark that reflects his character more than ours, yet we react and stoop to the same level.
I was a camel yesterday. Somebody made a rude comment about my country and I leapt to its defence by pointing out the imperfections of the country that person came from.
When was the last time you were a camel and judged another person in defence to being judged yourself?
Although we tend to judge others who are different from us, the elephant and camel remind us why we should avoid both offensive and defensive judging:
1. For every judgment, there is an equal and opposite judgment.
2. Whether you judge offensively or defensively, remember you look quite stupid to the other person!