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“What do I do if my boyfriend has commitment phobia?” This is one of the more common emails I get on this blog.

Relationships or friendships in which one or both parties have commitment phobia can be extremely challenging. The easiest way to deal with this is, of course, to run for your life! It is easier to find someone else who is willing to commit .But if you’ve decided to stay on, here are three recurring patterns to expect, and how to deal with them.

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Whenever life gets me down and I need borrowed wisdom because what little I have has all run out, I turn to Richard Templar’s The Rules of Life. There are 100 rules in total, all of them good. These are a few that I’m personally working on now.

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“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” - Mother Teresa

I’ve come to realise that one of the things that make me unhappy is my judgments about other people. Very often, this makes them unhappy too! How to not judge others is simple in theory, and very difficult in practice. Judgment comes to us so naturally that it takes conscious effort and a lot of practice to stop doing it. Here’s what I’m reminding myself to do.

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