When we are chronically unhappy with our life, sometimes the problem is not life. If you look in the mirror, you will see the real problem. While this is difficult to accept, the good news is that once you do, life becomes much simpler. There is only one problem you have to solve.
Two little boys put blue cheese spread on their grandpa’s moustache while he was sleeping. He woke and said “this room stinks!” and walked to the next room, which also smelt. Finally he went outside to the patio and exclaimed “My goodness, the whole world stinks!”
When you look in the mirror, what do you see?
1. The result of your thinking
Look at your family situation, career progress, financial affairs, and emotional state. Accept that all these are the way they are because of your thoughts and actions in the past.
There is no need to blame yourself if things are not all you want them to be. None of us are perfect, and we all make mistakes. So be gentle with yourself. Just understand that your thinking has gotten you to where you are today. And if you change your thinking, you can change your future circumstances.
2. What you’ve attracted into your life
You attract whatever you think about into your life. If you constantly worry about not having enough money, this will be your reality. If you keep expecting a relationship to go sour, it will. And if you think you are not good enough for that promotion, you most likely won’t get it.
Life is one long self-fulfilling prophecy. You can use this to your advantage by choosing empowering thoughts instead of pessimistic ones. If you believe that you are capable of something, you will work hard to make it happen. This hard work will increase your changes of success in all that you do.
3. The culmination of your thoughts
Disneyland was launched after Walt Disney himself had passed away. At the launch, someone commented to his widow that it was a pity Walt himself wasn’t there to see it. Her curt reply was “He saw it before any of us did. That is why it’s here today.”
Wow, what a powerful understanding of how the world works. Every building and skyscraper that you see existed in someone’s mind before it became bricks and mortar. Reality does not just happen. It is created by people just like you and me.
Look in the mirror and decide what you will see 5 years from now
You can allow this knowledge to frighten you, or to empower you. Use it to empower you. Choose the thoughts that will get you to where you want to be, and think those thoughts everyday.
Thoughts are Things
“I hold it true that thoughts are things;
They’re endowed with bodies and breath and wings;
And that we send them forth to fill
The world with good results, or ill.
That which we call our secret thought
Speeds forth to earth’s remotest spot,
Leaving its blessings or its woes
Like tracks behind it as it goes.
We build our future thought by thought,
For good or ill, yet know it not.
Yet, so the universe was wrought.
Thought is another name for fate;
Choose, then, thy destiny and wait,
For love brings love and hate brings hate.”
– Henry Van Dyke