Positive Letters is a beautiful and purposeful blog. Hilary’s blog posts are positive letters written to bring her mother happiness in her last months, and to keep other family members updated. Every letter is her way of telling her mum “I love you.” What an inspiration to the rest of us to write positive letters too.
This was my positive letter to Hilary.
I wanted to tell you that you are doing a beautiful thing for your mother. I wish I had the chance to go back and do for my dad what you are doing now.
My dad died two years ago from liver cancer. When the person we love is no longer with us, it’s the little things we remember. The ordinary words, the laughter, the smiles. Those memories are all I have now, and I’m happy that you are creating beautiful memories with your mum.
For me the sadness comes in unpredictable waves. I may be walking down the street or sitting on a bus, when suddenly I think of my dad and tears roll down my cheeks. This started a few months before he died, and continues even now.
At the same time I am happy because he died a good death. We all drew strength from that final journey. Today my family talks of him often with fondness and laughter, not sadness.
Please know that you are doing a beautiful, wonderful thing by being a faithful, loving companion on your mother’s final journey. I’m rooting for you and your mum.
If you also have a family member who is dying, this book can help you face the final mystery, or read the book review here. And while there is still time, do write positive letters to the people you love.